Do you remember when you got pregnant for first time, all the sudden everyone had “the best advice” to share with future mommy? And how you were sick of hearing all those unsolicited advices as time passed? Surely every women who got pregnant heard them!
Well, as much as we don’t like hearing this: Among those were some valuable advices! On this page several parents (like you and me!) have shared their experiences with those advices they didn’t ask for but at this point, after some time has passed, wished they listened!
I was told: Sleep when baby sleeps! And it helped me tremendously to keep my sanity. Only I would add: Keep going with sleeping when your child sleeps even when you have a toddler! Work will be there when you wake up, only at that point, you will be more likely to get everything done without stressing out!
Lower your standards. I hated them for saying this. i felt insulted and I thought I was capable of doing it all. Now, I know better. The dishes can wait. I don’t have to vacuum and mop everyday and no I don’t have to be a supermom. My kids will only be this age once. I now spend more time taking pictures, making videos and playing on the floor. I still get time to cook.. yes there are smudges on the furniture and the curtains have finger paint sometime… but nobody cares… not even my guests. They are more interested in my little entertainers.
Ask for help. It’s tempting to try and do everything yourself, but there are many hands willing to pitch in and help you…. or to play with your kid so you can get a few minutes rest (or do some work). No man is an island, nor is any mom. Take advantage of your support network so that you don’t get burned out or sick.
Enjoy it! I know it can be so difficult when baby or toddler is screaming every 5 minutes. But the time goes so quickly and suddenly your baby is 6! You know what they say about having kids.. The days are long but the years are short!
Don’t forget to spend time with your partner! Although having a baby is incredibly awesome, amazing, and life-changing in every way, it can also be a strain on your relationship. My husband and I kept thinking we didn’t need to have “dates” or time away from our little man, but it started taking a toll on how connected we were. We finally realized this about 6 months ago (my son is now 3!) and have started having date-nights. It’s made all the difference in how we feel about ourselves as a couple again and that translates to a happier home and happier child!
Every child is unique. Each has special qualities, strengths, and weaknesses. Not all children develop in the same way. Comparing them to each other only sets up disappointment. Each child needs to be celebrated and loved unconditionally – no matter where they are in their developmental progress. There really is no room forcomparison when raising children.
Shared by Deborah, mother to 2 boys (7 and 5 year old) and 3 girls (9, 3 and 1 year old),
author at Mommy Crusader and her Knights and Ladies.
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To begin with, I hated breastfeeding with my eldest daughter, the agony and mastritis did not help for a smooth start. The parenting class we attended before put me off completely but not my husband, he was just amazed by it all. I remember the teacher saying more women are successful with breastfeeding due to the help and support of their partner to which I quietly thought “Really?”. It is true I would of never stuck at it without his help and support.
Put the baby down! I was afraid to let my baby go even for a few minutes. I wasn’t even babywearing, so it was difficult for me to do the most basic tasks. I would really advise new mothers to put their baby down now and then so they learn to be by themselves too.
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Which one of the advices you were told during your pregnancy bugged you the most?
Was it proved to be truthful advice?
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Mihaela runs Best Toys 4 Toddlers blog and loves to come up with new ideas how to use old toys her 2 daughters keep leaving on the floor to slip over. She loves them despite the fact that they call her mommy few hundred times a day, and it makes her nuts.